Here are the highlights of my mom's interview, she is the custodial parent in my case:
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How do you think your divorce from my dad brought me and you closer together? and why?
I think the two of us were always going to be close no matter what, but I would say the divorce was an extra force that brought us together. The reason I say that is because when people experience a traumatic situation together, it bonds them. They are forced to rely and help each other; and that is exactly what we did. How do you think the divorce has changed the dynamics of some of the relationships in our family? I guess it effected Jasmines relationship with your father because she was too young to have a relationship with him at the time and the circumstances have not let it develop. |
Between the three of you guys, you were always close with Joshua, but your relationship with Jasmine has definitely developed out of the lack of her relationship with your father. You guys have grown a lot closer.
Off on a tangent, she goes on to talk about how the divorce was a blessing in disguise: "It enabled us to live our lives and be ourselves. We no longer had to live with fear in this toxic relationship."
Last thoughts on divorce:
"In some cases a divorce is necessary. It is sad when kids are involved but everyone wants to be the best parent they can possibly be and set their children in the best position for success. It is a fine line to parent the children without feeling guilty of taking the non-custodial parent out of their lives, but sometimes you have to do what you know is best no matter how hard the decision seems to be. No parent wants to feel responsible for taking the second parental relationship out of their child's lives but the joy in seeing their children blossom into great young adults makes up for that guilt and much more.
Off on a tangent, she goes on to talk about how the divorce was a blessing in disguise: "It enabled us to live our lives and be ourselves. We no longer had to live with fear in this toxic relationship."
Last thoughts on divorce:
"In some cases a divorce is necessary. It is sad when kids are involved but everyone wants to be the best parent they can possibly be and set their children in the best position for success. It is a fine line to parent the children without feeling guilty of taking the non-custodial parent out of their lives, but sometimes you have to do what you know is best no matter how hard the decision seems to be. No parent wants to feel responsible for taking the second parental relationship out of their child's lives but the joy in seeing their children blossom into great young adults makes up for that guilt and much more.